so, things around here have been a little more busy/hectic/complicated than i anticipated. between traveling with Jay, making nice with "the suits" & their wives, trying to keep things in order at home and with my family, i don't know where one day ends and the next begins. i'm actually supposed to be in D.C. with Jay right now, but i had to sit this one out since i haven't been feeling well the past few days. i do miss him terribly, though. the good thing is this is only a one-day trip. yays.

i am.....actually Jay is [cause i'm technologically-challenged and mess up things even worse when i touch them] still working on getting our pics uploaded but as of right now, the only ones we've been able to retrieve are the nudies [and as much as i love y'all, there's no way in hell i'm putting that shit on the internet], random brasilieros we encountered, & random carnaval stuff. he got some of the wedding stuff, but none are really good shots. he seems to think there's no way to retrieve the corrupt files and that we should just have a professional shoot to recreate the whole thing, but i risked getting my brains blown out for that damn thing. I WANT MY GODDAMN PICTURES!!!

because we have quite possibly the most incompetent lawyer ever, we're still not really clear as to whether our nuptials in sao paulo are recognized as legal here. so, we're just gonna go downtown and for a civil ceremony just to be on the safe side in mid-april. i'd like to do it next month, but apparently the ncaa tourney/march madness is more important. i really did want a [small, but nice] traditional wedding with our family & close friends, but that's never gonna happen. ::sad face::

and i'm learning that when you're with/married to someone who works in the corporate world, you're married to that world too. i thought i could get away with only having to show up to formal dinners here and there. arm candy. trophy wife. whatever you wanna call it.

nope.
nuh uh.

i don't know how these bitches got my phone number & email address, but they have it and they USE it. there really is this whole other world of "the wives". i got a little glimpse of it as a girlfriend, but in just 2 weeks they've managed to suck me all the way in.

i don't really like it. or them. i honestly think i'm the only one who didn't marry for money and that scares me. this one wife actually said "i really didn't want 4 kids, but you know, the more you have, the more you get in the divorce" and cackled like a hyena.

'pre-nup' is a very, very dirty word and don't you ever use it in the presence of these women.

i feel so out of place. they all meet for "girl time" three times a week and have get-togethers every weekend. fuck that. i don't know you hoes. i shop with my gays, have my own "girl days" by myself, and i don't do botox.

i know i have my moments of shallow- & pretentiousness, but these bitches are shallow & pretentious ALL the time. if they're not talking about how much something of theirs cost or what they're planning to buy, they're trying to get all up in my shit asking about Jay's & my financial affairs. my response to that is "honey, you're not privy to that information." i'm sure they'd frown & flare their nostrils up at me if any of them could move their face. and why don't these clownfucks know it's rude to inquire about when other people are planning to have kids??? that is none of your business unless i offer you that bit of information.

OOOOHHHH!! those sumbitches have some bad ass kids. terrorists in training. you know those kids you see in the grocery store and/or at the mall who don't listen, throw tantrums, and kick & scream like somebody's trying to kill them? that's them. i didn't find this out until a couple days ago, but Jay picked a weekend for us to host one of those get-togethers for march madness. i just know i'm gonna fuck up one of those little bastards. they are gonna try and destroy my house.

ick. i don't really know how to describe it. this is where Jay & i are very different-- Jay grew up in this kind of world so he fits right in-- he knows exactly what to say & when to say it & all that good stuff. my dad kept his family life & business life very much separated so any exposure to that life i have comes from being with Jay. he's very much the business-type and into applied mechanics, while i'm more of the investigatory, theoretical type. i will say that the wives know [or at least pretend very well to know] what the hell their husbands are talking about when it's business-related, while i am clearly uncomfortable & confused about what the hell was just said. hello, social science degree.

it makes sense when i think about it, but maybe not so much when i write it. but anyhooters, Jay told me it's not a big deal, not to feel bad about it, and that he actually likes that i don't try to pretend like i know something when i don't. in fact, one of things he loves most about me is that i've never tried to pretend that i'm something i'm not. ::happy face::

i'm just waiting for this other couple to get hitched so that i have someone around my age and i actually like to mingle with cause this is cruel & unusual punishment. for serious.

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you know, it's been almost a year since we had [and lost] Zoe. Jay and i were talking about it last night and he said if things were different i'd be driving him crazy planning her first birthday party a la vicki from real housewives. [he secretly LOVES that show but you didn't hear it from me.] but yeah, it really doesn't feel like it's been that long. not a day goes by that i don't think of her and still wonder how in just a matter of hours the happiest day of my life turned into the worst. there really are no words to describe the pain & agony of losing a child, especially your first-born. and i still can't eat anything from taco bell or have an oreo mcflurry without turning into a blubbering mess.

but i've made it this far, right?

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